Truthfully, there is no fraternal brotherhood quite like Omega Mu at the University of Maine. We are proud of our history, and we are proud of the impressive number of fraternal brothers who played on many University of Maine athletic teams. With conviction and commitment, our Omega Mu athlete brothers brought a great deal of joy and satisfaction to the university community, creating many wonderful memories since the first baseball team was established at Maine State College in the 1870's. The worked together for the success of each Maine team, and the overall civic good of the University of Maine. The sheer number of Omega Mu athlete brothers is an unqualified triumph for the University of Maine. They each gave their best efforts on each team, and what they achieved perfectly compliments what we fraternally believe: drive and determination. It is a heady athletic legacy. Accordingly, their accomplishments claim our fraternal attention and respect. For the eminence of their athletic success; and, above all, for being our Omega Mu brothers, we are proud. Therefore, in the linked soul and spirit of our long fraternal history, we gratefully remember and celebrate our QTV and Omega Mu brothers who participated on many varsity athletic teams at the University of Maine. Their sacrifice of time was worth the effort for them and the student body at the University of Maine who watched them play. They created many warm memories since the early 1870’s. For the eminence of their athletic success; and, above all, for being our Omega Mu brothers, we are all very proud.

Thoreau said it best: “What a difference, whether in all your walks, you meet only strangers, or in one house is one who knows you, and whom you know. To have a brother…How rare these things are.” How true that is, and we remain that way to this day.

Truthfully, there is no fraternal brotherhood quite like Omega Mu at the University of Maine. We are proud of our history, and we are proud of the impressive number of fraternal brothers who played on many University of Maine athletic teams. With conviction and commitment, our Omega Mu athlete brothers brought a great deal of joy and satisfaction to the university community, creating many wonderful memories since the first baseball team was established at Maine State College in the 1870's. The worked together for the success of each Maine team, and the overall civic good of the University of Maine. The sheer number of Omega Mu athlete brothers is an unqualified triumph for the University of Maine. They each gave their best efforts on each team, and what they achieved perfectly compliments what we fraternally believe: drive and determination. It is a heady athletic legacy. Accordingly, their accomplishments claim our fraternal attention and respect. For the eminence of their athletic success; and, above all, for being our Omega Mu brothers, we are proud. Therefore, in the linked soul and spirit of our long fraternal history, we gratefully remember and celebrate our QTV and Omega Mu brothers who participated on many varsity athletic teams at the University of Maine. Our scorecard is deep, and we appreciate, and we are proud of, all of our Omega Mu athlete brothers. 

Thoreau said it best: “What a difference, whether in all your walks, you meet only strangers, or in one house is one who knows you, and whom you know. To have a brother…How rare these things are.” How true that is, and we remain that way to this day. 

Truthfully, there is no fraternal brotherhood quite like Omega Mu at the University of Maine. We are proud of our history, and we are proud of the impressive number of fraternal brothers who played on many University of Maine athletic teams. With conviction and commitment, our Omega Mu athlete brothers brought a great deal of joy and satisfaction to the university community, creating many wonderful memories since the first baseball team was established at Maine State College in the 1870's. The worked together for the success of each Maine team, and the overall civic good of the University of Maine. The sheer number of Omega Mu athlete brothers is an unqualified triumph for the University of Maine. They each gave their best efforts on each team, and what they achieved perfectly compliments what we fraternally believe: drive and determination. It is a heady athletic legacy. Accordingly, their accomplishments claim our fraternal attention and respect. For the eminence of their athletic success; and, above all, for being our Omega Mu brothers, we are proud. Therefore, in the linked soul and spirit of our long fraternal history, we gratefully remember and celebrate our QTV and Omega Mu brothers who participated on many varsity athletic teams at the University of Maine. Their sacrifice of time was worth the effort for them and the student body at the University of Maine who watched them play. They created many warm memories since the early 1870’s. For the eminence of their athletic success; and, above all, for being our Omega Mu brothers, we are all very proud.

Thoreau said it best: “What a difference, whether in all your walks, you meet only strangers, or in one house is one who knows you, and whom you know. To have a brother…How rare these things are.” How true that is, and we remain that way to this day.

Bill Martin
Mississippi State, 1975
Surprises and Lessons from Omega Mu
 
Never let them know they’ve surprised you.

This was an attitude I adopted early on as a field secretary for the Fraternity. I had heard that chapters sometimes liked to play tricks on the field secretary or do other things to put him off balance, and I was determined not to give anyone the satisfaction of knowing they had done that.
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As I drove out of Lexington, Kentucky, in early September 1976, everything east of Ohio was a new adventure for this small-town kid from Mississippi who was still figuring out how to be a field secretary. After a visit with the Vermont Chapter, on Friday morning, September 10, I headed out of Burlington across New Hampshire and the backroads of Maine. As I made my way farther east and north, I had the sensation that I was nearing the edge of the earth. 

​My trip diary, which I still have, says that I arrived at Omega Mu at 5:00 p.m. As I pulled up, the brothers had just chosen sides for a touch football game. One of the teams graciously took me – a late arrival of unknown talent -- in the supplemental draft. It was a great way to work out the kinks from a day in the car and begin to build rapport with the brothers. 

Here was my first surprise: These Yankees would have been pretty competitive on the intramural fields at Mississippi State.
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The second surprise came that evening, when some brothers took me out for a few beers at a bar. On campus!! The county where Mississippi State is located was dry until midway through my junior year, and even after a majority of the voters decided that their fellow citizens could handle the temptations of demon rum, it was still illegal to have alcohol on campus. I was now in a whole new world.

The next surprise came later that night when I settled into my bed in the guest suite at the house. Who knew that a mattress could feel like sleeping in a canoe?
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On Saturday morning most of the brothers pitched in to clean up in and around the house. Then, after a quick lunch, we all headed to the football stadium to see the Black Bears take on St. Mary’s University of Halifax, Nova Scotia. Wait! I thought. After working all morning, aren’t you brothers going to shower? Don’t you wear a blazer and tie to the games? Don’t the coeds dress up like they’re going to a fashion show? That’s how we did it in Mississippi, late summer heat be damned. Surprise, Bill! It’s a football game, not a cocktail party. Mainers are not as status conscious as southerners. Never since have I worn a blazer or tie to a football game.

​On Sunday afternoon, I joined the brothers at an intramural football game. I don’t recall which fraternity was the opponent, but I do recall being surprised at the amount of contact that was allowed along the line of scrimmage and that, whatever the rules about contact, Craig Shaknis pushed them to the limit.

​Somewhere among all the amusements of the weekend, I conducted my formal field secretary duties, meeting with each of the chapter officers, a number of the committee chairmen, and Dean Dave Rand. I don’t recall any details from those meetings, but I do recall that Omega Mu was well lead and that the brothers cared about their chapter and made fraternity fun.

On Monday afternoon, September 13, I headed south to continue my swing through New England. I had many surprises during this visit to Omega Mu, all of them pleasant – except for the canoe bed. But here were the most meaningful surprises, and lessons: Fiji hospitality has no regional limits, and Fijis everywhere are a lot more alike than we are different.

I had a new perspective on Phi Gamma Delta and a much more positive expectation about my experience as a field secretary. ​

Fraternally,

Bill Martin
Mississippi State, 1975
Executive Director Emeritus

​Perge!

Eugene D. “Buddy” Cote III
His Impact on Phi Gamma Delta
Buddy Cote (Omega Mu 1981) is one of the most consequential leaders of Phi Gamma Delta of his era. I say this based not just on the scope and length of his service, but on the impact he has had on the strength of the International Fraternity and its standing in the interfraternity community.

Buddy’s Omega Mu brothers recognized his innate leadership abilities and elected him president of the Chapter. In this role, he caught the attention of the Fraternity’s headquarters staff, who targeted him as a prospect for the Field Secretary position. Phi Gamma Delta won a tug-of-war with Procter & Gamble for Buddy’s post-graduate services, and from 1981 to 1983 he served as a Field Secretary, traveling to chapters in the western and southern regions of the Fraternity. 

As Buddy’s term as Field Secretary neared its end in spring 1983, Executive Director Bill Zerman (Michigan 1949) persuaded him to remain on the staff as Director of Chapter Services. He served in that position until the fall of 1985, when he accepted a job in the private sector with the Balfour Company, and he and his new bride, Lisa, returned to New England, settling in North Attleboro, Massachusetts. 

Then began a lifetime of volunteer service to Phi Gamma Delta, in both formal and informal roles, that continues to this day. At the 2000 Ekklesia, Buddy was elected Archon Councilor, a position on the Fraternity’s board of directors, and in 2002 he was elected Archon Secretary, serving until 2004. He then served on the board of the Phi Gamma Delta Educational Foundation until 2006, when he was elected to a two-year term as Archon President, the top position in the Fraternity.

Through Buddy’s leadership and inspiration, in fall 2006 the Fraternity embarked on a growth initiative known as “170 X 170” and grew from 113 chapters and colonies to 165 in spring 2018. This effort greatly expanded the Fraternity’s footprint, influence and strength. Notably, the growth initiative brought the chartering of four new chapters in New England, at UConn, UMass, Quinnipiac and Northeastern. 

In 2010 Buddy was elected to the board of the North-American Interfraternity Conference (NIC), the trade association of men’s social fraternities. He served as chairman of the NIC from 2014 to 2015. This was a time of tremendous change for the NIC, and Buddy managed the process with skill and diplomacy. Since 2016 he has served as Phi Gamma Delta’s representative on the NIC Governing Council.
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Over a number of years, Buddy advocated with fraternity leaders to select Boston to host an Ekklesia. The last Ekklesia in New England had been in Swampscott, Massachusetts, in 1958. However, hotel rates in Boston in late summer, when the Ekklesia is held, were appreciably higher than the Fraternity found in other regions. But Buddy was patient and persistent, pressing the point that, while Boston might cost a little more, the brothers who attended would have such a great time that the cost would not be an issue. Eventually he made the sale, and he chaired the Host Committee of area brothers who would assure a memorable experience for the attendees. When the 168th Ekklesia was held at the Westin Boston Waterfront on August 10-14, 2016, over 900 brothers and guests attended, and there is no record that any of them complained about the cost. Only one other Ekklesia in fraternity history has had a higher attendance. 

Even as Buddy has done so much for greater Phi Gamma Delta and the fraternity movement, he also has contributed at the local level. He has served as president of the Boston Graduate Chapter and chairman of the Board of Chapter Advisors at Northeastern and has been continuously engaged with Omega Mu and the other graduate brothers who support the Chapter.
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Seeking neither recognition nor applause, Buddy has worked tirelessly for the glory of Phi Gamma Delta. His direct impact on the Fraternity and his devotion, character, temperament and personality mark him as one of our truly great leaders.

​Fraternally,
Chip Chapman, 1982
​Perge!

Truthfully, there is no fraternal brotherhood quite like Omega Mu at the University of Maine. We are proud of our history, and we are proud of the impressive number of fraternal brothers who played on many University of Maine athletic teams. With conviction and commitment, our Omega Mu athlete brothers brought a great deal of joy and satisfaction to the university community, creating many wonderful memories since the first baseball team was established at Maine State College in the 1870's. The worked together for the success of each Maine team, and the overall civic good of the University of Maine. The sheer number of Omega Mu athlete brothers is an unqualified triumph for the University of Maine. They each gave their best efforts on each team, and what they achieved perfectly compliments what we fraternally believe: drive and determination. It is a heady athletic legacy. Accordingly, their accomplishments claim our fraternal attention and respect. For the eminence of their athletic success; and, above all, for being our Omega Mu brothers, we are proud. Therefore, in the linked soul and spirit of our long fraternal history, we gratefully remember and celebrate our QTV and Omega Mu brothers who participated on many varsity athletic teams at the University of Maine. Their sacrifice of time was worth the effort for them and the student body at the University of Maine who watched them play. They created many warm memories since the early 1870’s. For the eminence of their athletic success; and, above all, for being our Omega Mu brothers, we are all very proud.

Thoreau said it best: “What a difference, whether in all your walks, you meet only strangers, or in one house is one who knows you, and whom you know. To have a brother…How rare these things are.” How true that is, and we remain that way to this day. 

Frank W. Danforth, Jr. was a vivid, memorable brother in our Omega Mu brotherhood, and it was a great honor and pleasure for Joel Gardiner and I to speak with him, at his home in Bath, several months before he died in 2016. He expressed his life-long love for our Omega Mu brotherhood with a bit of a misty twinkle in his eye, great humor, and abundant pride and joy. You could feel his fierce loyalty to Omega Mu. To be sure, he was a fiercely loyal, respectable and upstanding Omega Mu brother throughout his life. He always put his heart into everything he did for our brotherhood throughout his life. That is resilience, perseverance, and determination. Combine those three self-evident traits with Frank’s innate Maine pride, Maine stubbornness and grit, and Maine self-reliance, and that is what makes Frank W. Danforth, Jr such an extraordinary Omega Mu brother, a memorable, endearing link, soulfully strong, in our proud Omega Mu history.
 
Frank had a long and fascinating life-journey that spanned 93 years. The “Habits of the Heart”, to use Robert Bellah’s fitting term, left an important, enduring, and positive legacy for Omega Mu, the University of Maine, our country, his family, his countless friends, and the city of Bath, Maine, because he was a genuine no-nonsense type guy who believed in commitment to hard-work, traditions, cooperation, and discipline throughout his life. Quite simply, he lived faithfully and did all things for the common good of the whole. He was a blessing for a lifetime with all of his commitments. Therein lies the source of what makes Frank so vividly memorable. That was the consistent inner-linkage throughout his life, and that unifying linkage, that sincere and responsible sense of connectedness, made him successful, personally, professionally, athletically, civically, and fraternally. He lived fully, and he exhibited a gratitude for a life lived in all its different expressions, and his life and legacy is assured in all areas because he was committed and faithful, instinctively so.
 
When Joel and I arrived at Frank’s home in Bath, Frank, standing in the doorway, heartily greeted us, smiling joyfully. He was genuinely pleased that we had come to see him and speak with him. He led us into the kitchen, graciously offered us coffee and pastries, sat down and with a look of excitement he was ready to share his reflections and memories, and he did so with obvious affection, in an easy-going manner, interspersed with a great deal of laughter. 

It was not a gossip-column memory piece. Joel and I asked some questions but, generally speaking, Frank simply took over and became a wonderful storyteller and gave a beautiful, unique account about Omega Mu house-life in the 1940’, and he did so in a down-to-earth, emotionally honest manner. Frank pulled us right in and we were in the Castle in the 1940’s, feeling the connectedness of positive, grounding traditions lived faithfully. Listening to Frank was interesting and informative, refreshing and relevant. 

​Frank shared stories about the grace and good charm of having a housemother living within the Castle. Although not directly stated, Frank’s facial gestures and tone conveyed his firm belief that the presence of the housemother in the Castle gave the Omega Mu brotherhood a stabilizing dignity to the civic, fraternal life at many necessary points. 

​Additionally, Frank spoke positively about the traditions of the Omega Mu brotherhood in the 1940’s. One of the traditions was the fining of brothers for drinking too much, taking women, even girlfriends, to the second floor, and for talking too loudly in the RAM. Frank assured us that the brothers who were caught committing any of these indiscretions did pay the fine. Imagine that. Second, he spoke joyfully of one the keystone traditions of living in the Castle: sleeping in the RAM. 

​These traditions, according to Frank, had true fraternal value. It is no wonder, then, that when traditions are dismissed, forgotten, or intentionally dropped, the civic good of fraternal life looses its value, and that has proven to be true, unfortunately, during several periods in our history. A close reading of our fraternal history speaks for itself. It definitively shows that our brotherhood is at its best when we live with collective, civic purpose for the good, always, as undergraduate and graduate brothers. Frank’s multi-faceted narrative reflection on our Omega Mu fraternal life spoke volumes about the absolute necessity to live thoughtfully, faithfully, and courageously for the greater dignity of the whole of the Omega Mu brotherhood. Frank W. Danforth, Jr. was the perfect example of what fraternal faith in action looks like throughout life. Broadly speaking, we are blessed that we have had countless brothers like Frank through our history, and that is the real-life human truth that makes our brotherhood so special. We continue to know what fraternal integrity means, still. 
 
It was warm and homey to be sitting at Frank’s kitchen table as he gracefully wove many other anecdotal stories about Maine basketball games, World War II, the making and breaking of Fiji paddles, the Phi Gam Golf Classic, regularly attending Pig Dinner, Tom Tear, the chef for the Omega Mu brotherhood for over 30 years; and several others.

However, one of Frank’s stories really stood out. One morning, as he was standing next to the open window in the upstairs bathroom, a B-26 Bomber flying out of Dow in Bangor, piloted by two Phi Gamma Delta brothers (non-Omega Mu), who had played cards with Frank in the house the night before, flew over the Castle, dipped the planes wing to say hello to the Omega Mu brothers, and then proceeded over the campus, and it blew out or cracked many windows in Balentine Hall as it flew over. 

From multi viewpoints, Frank embodied good judgement and an easy yet hard-working grace throughout his life. There was an easy-going dignity about him, and his human spirit was always genuine, easy, kind, warm, and accessible to anyone. There was an honest immediacy about him.
Fraternally, he relished, understood, and celebrated the inter-linked connectedness of our brotherhood for his entire life. He made himself invaluable to this brotherhood, attended countless Pig Dinners, relishing the face-to-face time with brothers of every generation; played in the Phi Gamma Delta Golf Classic for many years, and contributed in so many other ways.
 
So many things, so many accomplishments, and when Frank died in 2016, we all lost a great fraternal friend and inspiration, and our Omega Mu brotherhood is better because of his example. We will always hold Frank W. Danforth in the highest esteem because he enhanced the vision and lived ideals of Phi Gamma Delta fraternity life in all the positive and right ways. We will miss his fraternal camaraderie, his fraternal loyalty, and his fraternal joy, and his fraternal love. He bled Omega Mu Fiji purple. Perge! 

Fraternally,
Chip Chapman, ’82
Perge!